The 20 Something League’s first milestone!

In light of my half birthday on Monday, I am reminded of another exciting milestone. Just 6 short months ago, I decided to start the 20 Something League as a forum for women in their 20s to talk about the pressure and confusion that we are facing in our 20s. I wanted to share my own experiences and learnings to shed more light on the struggles we face. A lot has even changed in my own life, and I am so grateful for all that I have learned. 

I truly cannot believe the 20 Something League has been up and running for 6 months! There is plenty more to come. 

Feel free to take this opportunity to comment on a topic you’d like to learn more about. I’m sure it’s something I am working on myself. We are here to help each other out! 🙂

6 Months Older,

Katie

6 Months into Living Together…

Happy Valentine’s Day 20 somethings! Whether you are single or in love, please take this day to send love to those who support you. I know I love all of you!!

My boyfriend and I moved in together about 6 months ago, so I figured this is a great time to provide an update on what I have learned so far.

  • Always make sure the toilet seat is down – old habits die hard
    • Note: he still hasn’t killed this bad habit
  • You will gain weight – you’re sharing a pantry with a boy, how could you not?
  • Your mother won’t understand – things were different in her day
    • She’ll also think you’re about to get engaged…
  • You feel like you clean allllll the time
  • Your finances take a bigger hit than you thought – it starts with movers, then furniture, and then you start getting carried away at Target…
  • ESPN & CNN is basically white noise in the background
  • 1 Bedroom Closet isn’t enough
  • Your relationship still has a while to go – a year to adjust
    • Definitely not mentally, physically or emotionally ready for a ring

Ahh.. but let’s not lose sight of the beautiful moments:

  • He knows I like my eggs scrambled
  • He takes out the trash
  • When I can’t get out of work on time, he can pick up my laundry
  • When I get lucky, steak or chili is waiting for me on the stove
  • Living with the best support system since your parents

Halfway in, I know we still have a long way to go. It was an interesting transition in the beginning. Mostly because it was surprisingly difficult to settle into a regular routine. We were watching TV in separate rooms trying to cling to whatever personal space we could claim. We had to learn to communciate more effectively now that we were around each other much more often.

If a friend were to come to me, asking for advice about whether she should take the same route, I would have mixed feelings in all honestly. Every relationship is different. My advice would vary based on the relationship. I say this because I do still think we have a long way to go, and I think moving in together needs to be decided with a great deal of reason.

I love my boyfriend, and I can happily say that we chose to move in together for the right reasons. I know we will still face some trying times on this endeavor. I don’t regret taking this step with him, but I would advise to anyone else to be sure to consider it with enough thought.

Questions or advice for me? Feel free to comment or contact me! I would love to hear if you are in a similar place or considering moving in with your significant other.

xoxo,

Katie @ the 20 Something League

Time for a job hunt?

My senior year in college, one of my english professors mentioned that our generation is estimated to have approximately four to five careers during our lifetime. Not four to five jobs…four to five careers! No wonder we are so exhausted in our twenties.

He specifically prompted us to work this notion into our next assignment, which was an auto-biography written 30 years out in the future. I remember at the time that this was particularly difficult for me to wrap my head around. Both of my parents entered into careers that remained in upon graduating.

You can say, that I expected a path similar to that of my parents. I expected that I would ultimately start a career after graduating, and I would follow that career path throughout rest of my life. Maybe take a pause for kids, maybe take over something temporary to make time for family time, but I truly thought that I would be with one company my whole career. If not, maybe I would work for two companies, but overall I would work within the same job function.

I am here to tell you – I was 100% wrong. HA! How great? It’s not that simple.

I can ramble on about how naive I was/am, but to put it simply, I found myself searching for a new job about a year after graduating. Fast forward to about 3 years later, I still find myself struggling to picture my next career move.

Here is my guide for recognizing when it may be time to move on from your current job:

  • Mastered Core Responsibilities – This is especially true if there is no promise for promotion or the “next step”
    • The company may be headed in a downward direction
    • You are ready to move up, but your company is not promoting
  • Unhealthy Work Environment
    • Corporate culture, stress, and working with difficult people
    • This can be difficult to recognize
    • Bottom line: work is impacting your health or your personal life
  • Newfound Personal Goals
    • Spent enough time at your job to realize it is not for you long term
    • Overall, you need to allow enough time to really dig deep and figure out what you want to see/do next
  • Location / Change of City or State
    • Need a shorter commute?
    • Relocate closer to family or friends
    • Need a change of scenery? Maybe the big city was fun while it lasted, but you need to be near mountains and nature. Or maybe you absolutely hate the cold and need to migrate south.

Have you been thinking you might be ready for a new job? Do any of these bullets resonate with you? If so, be sure to consider the pros and cons as well as what you are truly looking to do or see 40+ hours a week. There is definitely more to come on how to search for your next job! I have so many tips and tricks up my sleeve. Stay tuned twenty somethings!!